When Perserverance Not Only Pays Off....It Pays Well.

8:49 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

Hi guys!

You guys know I was pretty bummed a couple days ago. I had a submission that I really loved be rejected by my "dream" publisher and it was a tough pill to swallow. Lucky for me, I did a lot of research before I fell in love with this publisher. All of the reasons I wanted to work with them came to light and I wasn't disappointed.

Liquid Silver was one of the first publishers I ever submitted to. Even though I ultimately limped away with not one or two, but three rejection letters, I was desperately in love with their Acquisitions Director, Tracy West. Now, I don't think Tracy does ALL of the reading for Liquid Silver (that would be impossible), but as far as I know, she handles the entire process afterward. She's the person who sends you your acceptance/rejection letters but she always adds a little...I don't even know. There is something about her and Liquid Silver that just makes rejection...softer. It feels less like a business (and let's be real, publishing is a business) and more like having family read your books. I've never submitted to them without feeling as if I walked away with something more than what I started with, even if it wasn't a contract.

Anyhow, back to the point I'm trying to make. A couple of days ago, I got a rejection from this wonderful company. They liked my writing but had some problems with the story. They said they would be happy to look at it again after some revisions, but it wasn't stellar as is. After about an hour (okay, so it was probably closer to two), I decided to sit down with my Beta and work. Hard. We ironed out what they asked us to in a marathon session and I resubmitted.

And I got the offer email!

To say I'm happy would be an extreme understatement. I've wanted to be a part of this business since I was eleven. Never give up, guys. If you want something badly enough, there is always, always a way to get it.

The cute little GIF on my post is from this artist whose work reminds me of Cooking Mama! http://shinukoto-dei.deviantart.com/
"Happy Dance." Graphic. Shinukoto Dei. Osaka: DeviantArt, 2009-2011. Web. 21 Sep 2011. <http://shinukoto-dei.deviantart.com/gallery/#/d1yc9c2>.


One of those Downer Days.

8:52 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

Everyone has those days where they just can't seem to get it together. Between my cat knocking all of my papers off my desk repeatedly to the car, stalling out while we were on the road, today has been one of those days. Now I'm sitting in front of my computer, trying to force myself to write and despite my usual cheer, I have to admit, it's not a walk in the park. It's more like a jog through a swamp. Hot, sticky, uncomfortable, and I'm pretty sure the bugs are going to eat me alive. If the bugs are metaphors for stress. Yeah.

Anyway, I thought I'd share with you guys what I do on days like these. It's not easy being a writer. I'm sure the struggles are different when you're established, but while you're trying to get your foot in the door, you have to have an incredibly tough skin. Some people have it. Others don't. There are periods of time where you're so high on cloud nine you're sure someone is going to see you and proclaim you the next Superman. Then there are those days where you just want to crawl into bed and hug your pillow for hours.

I'm convinced that true heartbreak is thinking, knowing that something you've written is amazing, but not being able to find a company or agent willing to see your potential. It's hard to walk around puffed up like a rooster because you're positive what you've submitted is going to get picked up. Why wouldn't it? Your story is solid, your characters are well rounded, your voice is engaging, if not witty...what could be wrong with that? Only to find, four weeks later, that you don't have the "right" voice, or the story just "isn't for us."

It's disheartening to say the least, and it's easy to get into a slump. That's what I'm calling it. It's not really writer's block. It's just this depressive slump where you're not seeing any outcome for your hard work and you wonder if you ever will.

To battle the slump, I do a number of things. First off, if you find yourself staring at your screen for three hours with nothing coming...stop. Take a break, read a book (an important part of writing anyway), and just breathe. Go outside, take a jog, just do something to get your mind off of it for a little while. You can't expect to reset if you never give yourself time away from your frustrations.

If that doesn't work, I usually have a cup of tea. I know, tea, right? But it's always had a calming affect on me. I go outside, take my cup of tea, and let my mind wander for a little while. I don't think about work, I don't stress over what I've done wrong. I give it a rest. One of the hardest things about writing for me is that it never turns off. When I dream, I dream of my characters and how to make them better fleshed out. When I go to the store, I wonder what kind of food they'd eat and how that influences their tastes and smells. My work is never far from my mind, which isn't necessarily a good or bad thing. It's just a thing and need to be regulated at times.

My last bit of advice kind of depends on the kind of person you are. I'm a Cancer, and if you read into horoscopes, this makes perfect sense to you. If not...well, I'm an emotional girl. So, my last bit of advice is to cry. Just find yourself a nice place and let it out. Holding in all of your frustration and sadness isn't helping you so you might as give yourself some release.

So there you have it! You can do those things, or you can talk to a friend. Or write a blog! It appears to have helped me, at the very least. But remember, nothing worth having is ever easy. This is an uphill battle, but if you want it bad enough, all the stumbling and scrapes will be worth it. Absolutely.

Picture today is by http://zpolice.deviantart.com/

It was suggested to me that on top of adding the citation, I let the makers of the pictures I use know it's here on blog. I've reactivated my DeviantArt to do just that (LadyKahlan), but if I missed you and you do not want your awesome picture on my blog, please let me know and I will remove it immediately!)

"Original - Sad Day." Graphic. ZP zpolice. Thailand: DeviantArt, 2009. Web. 20 Sep 2011. <http://fc02.deviantart.net/fs44/f/2009/100/5/8/Original___Sad_Day_by_zpolice.jpg>.


A Little Rant About Patriotism

3:31 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

I'm a pretty patriotic person. I imagine it's because a good chunk of my family is military and I was a military brat growing up, but it really irks me when I hear people complaining about America and how messed up this country is. Yes, we have problems just like any other country. Maybe you haven't been overseas lately, it's not all peaches and cream in other places.

I feel like a lot of people completely take for granted the fact that they are allowed to have such opinions. That they are allowed to disagree and express themselves here. There is no shortage of groups and people who feel the same way you do and you can all get in a circle and blast one another with your opinions. But that doesn't mean you have to force them on other people. It doesn't mean that there is only one "right" answer, and you've got it.

Instead of sitting around and complaining about how "awful" America is, why don't you do something to help the situation? Volunteer, start a petition, write to your Senator. Complaining without any attempt to better the situation is just annoying and a waste of my time. Better yet, if you hate America so much, why don't you leave? We really don't need any more dead weight hanging around, so if you're so sure this is a shitty place, give up your citizenship and move somewhere else. I don't want to hear it.


2:50 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

Today was a beautiful day. There's nothing better than that. I went to the post office with the hubs, had lunch, and then worked for a while on the second installment of the Riding Hood Tales, which is now called The Big Cry Wolf. Ah, title changes.

I opted for another picture from DeviantArt today. This one is from the talented CroftMan93, and I...well, I want to come up with some deep, wonderful meaning behind it, but the guy is just hot. Yes. Hot.

"Hot long haired black guy." Graphic. Daniel Kevin (model). CroftMan93 . DeviantArt, Web. 14 Sep 2011. <http://fc09.deviantart.net/fs49/f/2009/213/6/6/hot_long_haired_black_guy_by_CroftMan93.jpg>.


Ah, it's Sunday.

2:17 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

Everyday, I spend a disturbing amount of time on DeviantArt. I love the creative energy of the site and today is no different. I'm not working today, besides managing my Networking sites. Taylor asked me to take the next two days off and hang out with him, so that's what I'm doing. Still, I found myself searching the pages, for little to no reason and stumbled across this. I love it, so I'll share it with all of you.

horsesilly, . (Photographer). (2011). The calm before the storm. [Web]. Retrieved from http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2011/214/7/e/__the_calm_before_the_storm___by_horsesilly-d42kdxa.jpg

There is it. It feels very...me today. I've added a citation, because the artist deserves (her?) credit. So, if you like what you see, stop by her user page. She's got a lot of great stuff up. http://horsesilly.deviantart.com/

And that's what's going on on my two-day vacation.


Trying new things.

2:05 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

Crazy, yet productive day. I'm working on getting all of my networking sites up and running. Who would have thought surfing the web could be so exhausting?! But it's all right. I know which ones I will be focusing most of my time on and which will be primarily just for updates. Either way, it all works out.

Now! For blogging, which is always fun. Hahaha. I wanted to try a lot of different things for my blog, including handwritten letters. Because who doesn't enjoy getting a letter from time to time?

I like the speed of emails but there's something so personal about someone sitting down and writing you something with their own hands. So, yeah. I didn't get very far. Turns out, writing on a tablet is not nearly as nice as writing on paper. I'll keep up the effort, but for today, this is as far as it goes. Yeah.


How Time Flies

12:24 PM Nina S. Gooden 0 Comments

When I was Twelve Years Old, I wrote one of my favorite authors and told her I would be a writer one day. She sent me a postcard, wishing me luck and I framed it and kept it over my bed. Some years later, when my house was hit by a fire, that memento was one of the things I mourned. Today I had the opportunity to write that author again and tell her how far I've come. It was a turning point in my career, and as I sat here with tears in my eyes I couldn't help but feel cemented in my choice.

This isn't an easy business to get into. I have individuals telling me all the time that they could do it, that it's easy and effortless. Most of the time I just sit and nod, listening to them talk about things they don't know. But the truth is, being a writer is like being any other kind of artist. There's heavy competition, blows to your ego, and vortexes of need that devour your time. It's exhausting, elating, and completely worth it IF you love it as much as you need to.

Ultimately, I'm happy. I'm happy with the hundred dollars I just dropped on a membership to the RWA (heck yeah!). I'm happy with the house load of chores I haven't completed because I was editing all of last night. I'm happy with the five thousand words I just had to delete because they didn't fit with the flow of some secondary character in the back of my head. I'm HAPPY. But not everyone could be.